13/08/2015

The Single Life

                     
Is it just me, or are all bloggers in relationships?
I definitely feel in the minority as a single blogger, almost as if it's a bit of a taboo subject (although this most certainly extends further than the blogging community and into general life). 
In all my years of reading blogs and the past year of writing one (or at least attempting to), I haven't once seen anyone blog about being single yet I have seen countless blog posts on relationship advice. So why is it that single people never talk about being single? 

Personally for me, I feel like there is a little bit of shame in being on your lonesome. Generally as a society, we are taught from a young age that what you should be aiming to achieve in life is to get married and have kids. Growing up, I would never have imagined my adult life without a partner in the picture. I always longed for someone and felt insanely jealous when my friends started getting into relationships. 
I have always been 'the single one'. All throughout high school my friends would be constantly in and out of relationships, always gossiping about their boyfs whilst I sat wondering why the hell nobody wanted to be with me. Even up to present day when 99% of my girlfriend's are in relationships, I am still known as Bridget (yes, as in Jones). 
However, as shocking as it may seem, for the past few years I have been perfectly happy being alone. Yes being alone can be lonely at times and it's a pain in the ass when you want to take ootd photos but the majority of the time, I really love it. And I feel like that isn't said often enough. 
Why is it shameful to like being by myself?

I think one of the main reasons I love being a single pringle is because it's taught me that I am enough. Whilst having a partner can be truly rewarding and I have nothing against people in relationships, I think sometimes you become lost in that couple and forget that you are your own person. You alone are enough and you shouldn't have to depend on someone else to provide your happiness, it should come from within. 
It may have taken me a few years but this is one of the greatest life lessons I've learnt so far and I really wanted to share that with you.
If you've recently been through a break up or just feel like you aren't complete without someone by your side, I hope you remember this post next time you're feeling down. It's okay to be alone and not only is it okay, it's actually pretty bloody awesome! 

Speaking as a single gal, I can't tell you how annoying it is going to an event/family gathering and constantly  getting asked how my love life is or why I don't have a boyfriend so next time you're with 'the single one' of your friends, maybe instead of asking these questions with a pitying look on your face, you can instead accept that they are perfectly happy being single and ask them something different instead!
I know this post is rather random and doesn't really have a point to it but I hope you've enjoyed it nonetheless whether you are in a relationship or not!

4 comments :

  1. I wholeheartedly agree with this! Especially when you're young, you should celebrate being free and not completely depending on someone else.

    Franzi. I FRANZIZZY

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    1. I'm glad it's not just me then! Exactly, we should make the most of it whilst we can :) xo

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  2. This is such a refreshing post to read and I couldn't agree with you more! Every outfit post I read seems to be taken by the bloggers boyfriend or if its a resturant review, the majority of the time it will be a meal with their other half. I have also always been the single one, but there's no point getting down about it if you can't really change the situation :) x
    Charlotte's Road

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    1. I'm glad you enjoyed it and agree with me!
      It does seem like we're in the minority so it's always nice to meet a fellow single blogger :) xo

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